Balancing Sikhi With Family ObligationsWaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh,
So you’ve taken Amrit and given your head to Guru Gobind Singh Ji and Mata Sahib Kaur. Your now a part of the Khalsa Panth. Feels great doesn’t it! That feeling, its so great you just can’t put into words how you feel. To bad you can’t describe to others how you feel. If only they knew, they would take Amrit to. The rehit it might sometimes be hard to keep, but you wouldn’t want it any other way. Guru Gobind Singh Ji is now your father and you’d do anything for them since they’ve showered you with so many blessings. Their wish is your command. Guru Sahib says Rehit Piaaree Mujh Ko, Sikh Piaaraa Naahee. So you keep your rehit and wouldn’t give it up for anything in the world. Life is good eh, never been better.
Than the phone rings and your cousin is getting married. They are having anand karaj at the gurdwara in the morning, and a party in a hall at night. The party is going to include alcohol, meat, as well as an environment not suitable for a Gursikh. This is not a somewhere Guru Sahibs Sikh should be seen you think to yourself. But what do you tell your cousin, who has been looking forward to his big wedding day his whole life and expects you there, and won’t take no for an answer? Tough situation isn’t it.
What would you do?
Well I can’t tell you what to do, but here are a few things to think about:
Guru Gobind Singh Ji’s horse knew better than to even step foot in a tobacco field. The tobacco wasn’t even in the form of a cigarette yet, but the horse still knew better, and refused to enter the tobacco field. If a horse was smart enough to know this, cant we see that going to a hall full of liquor is also bad for us?
Gurbani continually makes reference to the world being an ocean and Sikhi being the boat that gets us across the ocean. If we have two boats, and we put one foot in each boat we wont get across that ocean will we? We will lose our balance and fall into the water sooner or later. Now lets say the world is an ocean, and Sikhi is a boat, and than we put our foot in another boat (going into bad environments). We are now trying to have a foot in two boats while crossing the ocean, we can’t get very far this way. We will eventually lose our balance and fall into the water. Sikhi is about total submission to Guru Sahib, and total commitment to Sikhi and letting that boat get us across the ocean, and not worrying about anything else.
It’s up to you to decide. Do you want to cross that ocean? Float in that ocean? Or drown in that ocean. What are you going to choose? The decisions yours.
*Everything happens within hukam and with Guru Sahibs Kirpa, to cross that ocean ultimately requires the blessings of Waheguru
**veerji has written a good follow up to what daas wrote above and daas encourages you to have a look: Waheguru Ji Blog
Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh